Comments on: Missed Days http://www.beingmichaelsdaddy.com/2009/08/09/missed-days/ A day to day chronicle of being daddy to Michael The Unexpected. Thu, 02 Feb 2012 17:54:06 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Mocha Dad http://www.beingmichaelsdaddy.com/2009/08/09/missed-days/comment-page-1/#comment-2546 Mocha Dad Wed, 12 Aug 2009 22:22:51 +0000 http://www.beingmichaelsdaddy.com/2009/08/09/missed-days/#comment-2546 My son is also starting kindergarten this year. I'm amazed by his growth and development over the past five years. The other commenters are right. Don't beat yourself up. You are doing all you can right now to be the best parent that you can be. That's all any of us can do. My son is also starting kindergarten this year. I'm amazed by his growth and development over the past five years. The other commenters are right. Don't beat yourself up. You are doing all you can right now to be the best parent that you can be. That's all any of us can do.

]]> By: seashore subjects http://www.beingmichaelsdaddy.com/2009/08/09/missed-days/comment-page-1/#comment-2545 seashore subjects Wed, 12 Aug 2009 13:20:08 +0000 http://www.beingmichaelsdaddy.com/2009/08/09/missed-days/#comment-2545 It is hard to look back and have fuzzy images, but in this instance the outcome is more important. And look at your outcome! He has grown into an adorable, curious, and much loved boy and your family seems to be melded and happy. So you all must have been doing something right! It is hard to look back and have fuzzy images, but in this instance the outcome is more important. And look at your outcome! He has grown into an adorable, curious, and much loved boy and your family seems to be melded and happy. So you all must have been doing something right!

]]> By: Dad.. http://www.beingmichaelsdaddy.com/2009/08/09/missed-days/comment-page-1/#comment-2544 Dad.. Wed, 12 Aug 2009 00:00:30 +0000 http://www.beingmichaelsdaddy.com/2009/08/09/missed-days/#comment-2544 I forgot so many little details about my kids ealy lives, I was truly ashamed of myself. HINT... pull out the old photo albums and home movies. It'll take you RIGHT BACK!! I did this recently and rekindled a TON of great memories. I need to do this more. I forgot so many little details about my kids ealy lives, I was truly ashamed of myself. HINT… pull out the old photo albums and home movies. It'll take you RIGHT BACK!! I did this recently and rekindled a TON of great memories. I need to do this more.

]]> By: Anonymous http://www.beingmichaelsdaddy.com/2009/08/09/missed-days/comment-page-1/#comment-2543 Anonymous Tue, 11 Aug 2009 15:38:09 +0000 http://www.beingmichaelsdaddy.com/2009/08/09/missed-days/#comment-2543 Having forgotten so much of your childhood because of a lack of spousal assistance I can totally relate to this dilemma.<br />But you are doing the right thing in documenting all of this for his future, so few people do this.<br />Now maybe you understand why I keep calling Michael, Tom, I am trying to relive that time in a more measured and careful way but as the Chinese say,you cannot step in the same river twice.<br />Love, your Mom Having forgotten so much of your childhood because of a lack of spousal assistance I can totally relate to this dilemma.
But you are doing the right thing in documenting all of this for his future, so few people do this.
Now maybe you understand why I keep calling Michael, Tom, I am trying to relive that time in a more measured and careful way but as the Chinese say,you cannot step in the same river twice.
Love, your Mom

]]> By: Anonymous http://www.beingmichaelsdaddy.com/2009/08/09/missed-days/comment-page-1/#comment-2542 Anonymous Tue, 11 Aug 2009 00:56:22 +0000 http://www.beingmichaelsdaddy.com/2009/08/09/missed-days/#comment-2542 Tom, Tom, Tom, yes all three of you...husband, dad, and wage earner! I should add cook, handyman, etc. You need to be more philosophical; when you and Michale's Mommy were married you were blending families not an easy task, especially with all of the additional outside drama. I remember thinking your cell phone was some kind of crisis hot line. Look how successful you've been. The girls have transitioned well in spite of being teen-agers, Michael is a wonderful, well-behaved (usually) 5 year old boy, your wife loves you very much. Hey, you were everything to everybody--you had no time for Tom. Slow down and take time to smell the prickly pear margaritas. You are an excellent husband, father, stepfather, son-in-law, cook bartender and so much more! Grandma K. Tom, Tom, Tom, yes all three of you…husband, dad, and wage earner! I should add cook, handyman, etc. You need to be more philosophical; when you and Michale's Mommy were married you were blending families not an easy task, especially with all of the additional outside drama. I remember thinking your cell phone was some kind of crisis hot line. Look how successful you've been. The girls have transitioned well in spite of being teen-agers, Michael is a wonderful, well-behaved (usually) 5 year old boy, your wife loves you very much. Hey, you were everything to everybody–you had no time for Tom. Slow down and take time to smell the prickly pear margaritas. You are an excellent husband, father, stepfather, son-in-law, cook bartender and so much more! Grandma K.

]]> By: Tom http://www.beingmichaelsdaddy.com/2009/08/09/missed-days/comment-page-1/#comment-2541 Tom Mon, 10 Aug 2009 23:20:55 +0000 http://www.beingmichaelsdaddy.com/2009/08/09/missed-days/#comment-2541 @Bob -- Buddy, you don't know how you've brightened my day! It's really good to hear from you. I don't know if I could ever classify myself as a "great dad"... but you're definitely there. Thanks for dropping by! Don't be a stranger! @Bob — Buddy, you don't know how you've brightened my day! It's really good to hear from you. I don't know if I could ever classify myself as a "great dad"… but you're definitely there. Thanks for dropping by! Don't be a stranger!

]]> By: Anonymous http://www.beingmichaelsdaddy.com/2009/08/09/missed-days/comment-page-1/#comment-2540 Anonymous Mon, 10 Aug 2009 23:12:55 +0000 http://www.beingmichaelsdaddy.com/2009/08/09/missed-days/#comment-2540 Tom!!! It's Bob.. I will show below as anonymous because I was too lazy to try to create any account right now, but I wanted to tell you that I really loved this post, as I do all of what you write. I have a lot of the same feelings as you describe.. I did early on and I do now.. I think what makes us great dads is that we stop and think once in a while. Michael has a top notch dad, and I have a long-time friend that I am totally proud to know. I love you, Bro!!! Tom!!! It's Bob.. I will show below as anonymous because I was too lazy to try to create any account right now, but I wanted to tell you that I really loved this post, as I do all of what you write. I have a lot of the same feelings as you describe.. I did early on and I do now.. I think what makes us great dads is that we stop and think once in a while. Michael has a top notch dad, and I have a long-time friend that I am totally proud to know. I love you, Bro!!!

]]> By: Tom http://www.beingmichaelsdaddy.com/2009/08/09/missed-days/comment-page-1/#comment-2539 Tom Mon, 10 Aug 2009 20:07:59 +0000 http://www.beingmichaelsdaddy.com/2009/08/09/missed-days/#comment-2539 Thanks for your kind words. I really do appreciate them.<br /><br />I'm going to be hard on myself for just a little while longer, though. Thanks for your kind words. I really do appreciate them.

I'm going to be hard on myself for just a little while longer, though.

]]> By: michaelsmommy http://www.beingmichaelsdaddy.com/2009/08/09/missed-days/comment-page-1/#comment-2538 michaelsmommy Mon, 10 Aug 2009 17:35:56 +0000 http://www.beingmichaelsdaddy.com/2009/08/09/missed-days/#comment-2538 Don’t be so hard on yourself. You were dealing with sister B n L's emotional baggage that they were unpacking at out house. Their mom (J) was having mental breakdowns and causing the girls to be sooooooo difficult. They couldn’t love me because that would disrespect their mom and they couldn’t love their new brother because that would upset their mom. The poor little boy was surrounded turmoil caused a domestic terrorist (J). I will not sugar coat that time because it was pure hell for me and I know you. I think you did the best you could at the time and I can help you remember the cute little Michael and I think weaselmomma is right; your memory will come back at the right time. Life is better now because we are not being constantly terrorized like before. We actually have peace in our lives and God is bigger than anything so if we just keep leaning on him we have nothing to worry about. :o) Don’t be so hard on yourself. You were dealing with sister B n L's emotional baggage that they were unpacking at out house. Their mom (J) was having mental breakdowns and causing the girls to be sooooooo difficult. They couldn’t love me because that would disrespect their mom and they couldn’t love their new brother because that would upset their mom. The poor little boy was surrounded turmoil caused a domestic terrorist (J). I will not sugar coat that time because it was pure hell for me and I know you. I think you did the best you could at the time and I can help you remember the cute little Michael and I think weaselmomma is right; your memory will come back at the right time. Life is better now because we are not being constantly terrorized like before. We actually have peace in our lives and God is bigger than anything so if we just keep leaning on him we have nothing to worry about. :o )

]]> By: michaelsmommy http://www.beingmichaelsdaddy.com/2009/08/09/missed-days/comment-page-1/#comment-2537 michaelsmommy Mon, 10 Aug 2009 00:22:15 +0000 http://www.beingmichaelsdaddy.com/2009/08/09/missed-days/#comment-2537 I must honestly say that sister B and L brought over a lot of problems from their other parents house (J). I tried so hard to be nice but ended up being upset and abused by them both. I will never forget J barging in our house, holding Michael and when I asked to have him she just got up and put him in his crib (in OUR bed room). That was the day I stopped being nice. I will never forget her trying to just take things over and dismiss me as michaels mommy. It makes my blood boil just thinking of it now. I must honestly say that sister B and L brought over a lot of problems from their other parents house (J). I tried so hard to be nice but ended up being upset and abused by them both. I will never forget J barging in our house, holding Michael and when I asked to have him she just got up and put him in his crib (in OUR bed room). That was the day I stopped being nice. I will never forget her trying to just take things over and dismiss me as michaels mommy. It makes my blood boil just thinking of it now.

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